The Load Not Taken

by hot mama

Having done my share of experimenting during a misspent youth, there are few things I haven't tried. When I took a vow to be faithful to one man for the rest of my life I knew what I was giving up. I knew I was giving up the fiery desire of unconsummated relationships. I knew I was giving up sexual tension, mystery and anticipation. But I liked what I was getting in return.

I think I was able to make that vow freely and wholeheartedly because I was such a "free spirit" before I got married. I knew I wouldn't feel like I was missing out on anything. I think I can really explore my sexuality now I have a partner I'm so comfortable with and trust fully, who is also open-minded.

I do have just one regret though. I've never been with a woman. I always intended to try changing teams, at least once, but I never met the right woman at the right time.

So, I guess I have one unexplored longing. But I actually think it's a good thing to have one great unknown, something I can fantasize about.

Do you have any sexual regrets? Something you wished you'd done before you tied the knot? Care to share? Please do!

Comments

[Tanya]

My husband and I are lucky that we'd already been around the block a few times so that by the time we'd hooked up, we were looking forward to being with only each other.

Although there was a drunken business trip in the Bahamas two years ago and my co-worker, an Iranian princess and firecracker, totally molested me and it was wicked hot. Afterwards she felt weird (I didn't!) but I reassured her not to be upset. I would have tried again if she'd wanted to. As soon as I came home I told my husband (and my mum!) and it was just a laugh.

My sister and her husband have been together for 27 years since she was 17 and he was 19 and I wonder if they have regrets?

P.S. I keep meaning to tell you I love your site.

[metro mama]

One word - threesome!

[metro mama]

One word - threesome!

[LarryLilly]

I married at 20 the woman who was my fifth date ever. And the first 4 never went past a kiss. Singular, A kiss.

I was married for 28 years to her. By then, the marriage was in the toilet, and well, literally two days before the first divorce hearing, she died, sudden pulmonary embolism. I had started to see a woman before that, and after 4 months, married. That was 9 years ago, and its been heaven.

Yeah, I would have liked to be more like my sons now, 30+ and still single, but at the time, it was right.
So I have no regrets.

and my current wife, she was like you, and she had that relationship with other women after we married. It was with my blessing, and I was never in any way a part of it. I viewed it as natural, I guess to me woman on woman affairs is natural. But maybe that is just me.

Hmmm.... well I've been around the block a *cough* few times so my curiosities have been satisfied for the most part. I'm wracking my brains to think of something but nope, can't think of anything.

And I don't mean to get off topic but I thought of something when reading LarryLilly's comment. Doesn't it seem that more people see a woman being with another woman (when they are straight for the most part) as more "natural" than male with male. Which doesn't seem to make sense. Or is that just me that thinks that way?

[hot mama]

Yes, I think people are more accepting of woman on woman. Nope, doesn't make sense.

I don't know if sexual orientation is as cut and dry and most would like to believe.

[georgianblue]

I've "been there done that" too, having my share of relationships before I settled into a life of monogamy 12 years ago.
I don't know if I would call it a regret, but I would have loved to have tried the girl on girl experience too, and think I would have enjoyed a threesome with two other guys as well. I agree with what Larry says, but I personally don't feel that way. Guy on Guy is hot!

[crazymumma]

I'd like to try it with a woman but I do not think I would be able to reciprocate oral sex. I would be more than happy however to receive.
Thats sort of pretty much how I am with mr mumma as well. Miss lazy.

Other than that I think I have done just about everything that needs to be done.

Doing it with a woman would have to be the thing I wish I had tried.

[Gunfighter]

I've done most of what there is to do... but I'm all about repetition.

[kgirl]

um, let's just say been there, done that... and that... and that... and that...